What to do if a gift isn't you, but it was given by a loved one?

Gifts of clothing are the ones that tend to hang around with tags in our closet the longest.


Do you know why?




Because there is an emotion attached to the gift, especially if it comes from a loved one.

You have it in your closet. You don't wear or don't like it! But still, feel like you can't get rid of it.

It's almost like you feel like you're rejecting the gift giver if you get rid of the gift.


The same thing happens when you associate your clothes with memories, you just "have" to keep it for the memories that it brings.

It's almost like if you give the clothes away, you are getting rid of the memory!


Think about the reverse now, imagine you find out that someone keeps the sweater that you gave to them in their closet for years, but weren't able to wear it because it wasn't their style?


You probably would say: You should have exchanged it!!!

Nobody who gives a gift wants to think you're keeping it because it was given to you.






Are you worried in case you give away the gift and the giver wants to see you wearing?




Hardly happens but it can happen with close family members that you "almost feel obligated" to show it to them you're wearing what they gave you.


But really, think-how often this really happens?






Do you need an excuse in case you're asked about the gift and don't want to be caught by surprise?


You want something that will not make you sound mean but will take all the expectations away from the giver on seen you wearing the piece...


Try these white lies:


  • I was wearing and my jewelry pulled a thread (for sweaters and delicate pieces)!

  • It snagged and tore when I was wearing it!

  • It got stained and I couldn't get it out!


No one wants you to keep stained or ripped pieces but in case you don't want to tell a white lie, explain to the giver that you really appreciate the thought but you tried to make it work in your wardrobe and you couldn't, and you exchanged it to a piece that you will treasure and that every time you wear you think of them.


It's important to remember that you should treasure memories and the loved ones, not things and by giving away to someone else that it will enjoy wearing you're not getting rid of the memories or them.




Baci + Abbracci = XOXO









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