I'm sure that every woman, at one time in their life has asked herself this question when getting dressed!
There is always an intention behind when you are choosing your clothes!
Even if you think you are choosing without thinking, you know when you mess up your whole wardrobe in search of a specific piece?
Clothes tell alot about you, and when you get dressed you do just that, consciously or not.
If you're the type of women who thinks..." I don't have to prove anything to anybody!" you can send the message depending on the context as disrespectful or careless.
Women that love florals, lace, and soft delicate materials can send a message of fragile and even passivity!
There is nothing wrong with that, but you just need to be aware and do small adjustments when you think it's not appropriate.
For example: I had a client that complained to me about no one taking her seriously at her work. After understanding a bit more about her style, we identified that the way she was getting dressed was affecting her image and how others perceive her.
Let me explain more so you don't think I'm B.S.ing you...
She's a petite woman ( the stereotype already of a petite woman is that they're cute) who wears florals, polka dots, and delicates prints, and the color she wears is always soft and pastel colors, making her appear sweet and delicate. Which would be totally fine is she wants to appear that way, but she doesn't want that.
How does she change that without looking like a fake?
The key is not to change how she likes to dress - because it's not about becoming fake!
What you do instead is to bring elements that will help her send the message she wants to send to the world.
She still can wear her floral tops, but now she will pair with a blazer, for example, she needs to bring elements that will give her more structured look, so she can send the message of a more professional and "take me serious" look!
Do you see how this works?
The power of fashion
Fashion has power, and can give you confidence, but can also exclude, when you limit the use of certain garments to groups X and Z because their body shapes are not perfect for that particular piece.
When you understand which clothing works well at work, in informal meetings with friends, or for shopping, you can play with the effects and enhance both your private and professional lives.
I wear a lot of colors and always have an element of impact in my outfits, that shows my fun and loud personality, I have done this unconsciously since I was young,
What you chose to wear to create a certain impression and makes you feel comfortable can change how others experience us.
Why the way you look is so important?
If your appearance is not important in your life, you wouldn't invest so much time and resources going to stores, choosing clothes, buying them, seeing what suits what.
You should not let fashion dictate what you should wear, but you must know how clothing can empower you, how it can transform the way you look at yourself, how it can improve your self-esteem.
That brings me to the next topic...
Don't wear something that doesn't make you feel comfortable!
DUH!!! It sounds obvious, you'll get what I'm talking about ...
Let's talk about Kim Kardashian. She feels comfortable showing off her curves and completely discards the rules of what a woman with a pear shape should be wearing.
She is comfortable wearing and showing her shape!
Be aware of dress codes
So I just told you to be free and wear whatever you like, and now I'll tell you to be aware!!!
You have to be aware of dress and social codes because the clothing that we love at the wrong time can be a disaster. Avoiding unintended signals is always the key!
Imagine an attorney dressed in jeans and a t-shirt represent you in court? Get what I am trying to say?
Food for thought!
We all have a message and by communicating it visually wrong we can create a mistaken impression of who we are, and what we want.
People read us, it's called impression.
What is the first and last impression you're sending?
Is it aligned with who you are?
Baci + Abbracci =XOXO